Secret Lives

I've been sitting here answering my emails with a TV on in the background. The TV has been playing "The Secret Lives of Women." It's pretty amazing how many ... different, yeah that's the way to say it... different, people are out there. I watch some of them and realize the lifestyle is pretty cool, but some of them are just... Scary.

I'm not old fashioned, and I have been interested in sex for many years, but sometimes you have to have limits. That's part of the problem with romance writing too; limits. What is the limit of what you can write? How can you tell the difference between erotic sex scenes and pornography? It's one fo the biggest problems I've had with romance.

Now the romance publishers are asking for more course language and for things that were previously taboo. Bondage and Kink are on many epubs, and some are going in mainstream. My little seductive scenes, while scandalous a few years ago, are not as risky and hot as many of the mainline series.

So, How do we tell what is to hot and what is too cold for today's market? I wish I knew the secret...